One of the hardest things to hear after a breakup is that “it’s time to move on,” which is so much easier said than done. How long should it take to really get over someone and will you ever feel better? Here’s what experts say about getting over a breakup.
How Long Should it Take?
Unfortanelty, everyone deals with breakups differently and every breakup is different. Giving yourself a week to update your dating profile or to change your relationship status on facebook may not be enough time, so don’t give yourself a deadline. It will only end up stressing you out. How long it takes to really get over someone depends on how intertwined the person was in your life, it can feel like you’re losing a part of yourself.
How to Get Over It
It’s over, so it’s not healthy to ruminate about what could have been and your future together. “The hardest part of getting over a relationship is often not the loss of the actual person, but the loss of the fantasy of what you thought could happen,” said marriage and relationship specialist Julianna Morris. There is always a reason you broke up, you weren’t that great together.
A breakup is a great opportunity for you to try new things like taking a class, trying a new exercise class, or spending more time with your girlfriends. Amiira Ruotola, co-author of”It’s Called A Breakup Because It’s Broken” suggests “focusing on reshaping your life to be the person you want to be.”